When we break up with a lover we will have to either try getting over them or try to get them back. This will of course depend on whether you still love them or not.
Only you can decide if this person really makes you happy and if this person will be the right choice for you and possibly the rest of your life. Your friends and family may try to give you advice but keep in mind they are not impartial. Even though they love you and probably want the best for you they still are speaking from their own interests, opinions and tastes.
In some cases friends may have been jealous of your relationship either consciously or on an unconscious level. Or maybe they just didn’t like your partner or liked you better when you were single. Even though they mean well remember everyone has their own agenda.
We all know there are many reasons for a couple to break up. Sometimes there is no chance of getting back together and you will have to accept that. But in many cases a couple will break up over something simple or a misunderstanding. In this case a relationship can be salvaged but you may have to be the one to swallow your pride and make the first move.
This will often have to be the man since men are usually expected by society to be the chaser. When women make the first move they can sometimes be viewed as being desperate.
Before making the decision really examine your own feeling before you choose. Make sure you are not just acting on hurt feelings or desperation and wanting to get back with them so you can dump them. If you think you might be playing any of these kind of teenage games you will do yourself and the other person a big favour by just moving on. If you really feel that this person is your soul mate then it’s time to make a plan to get them back.
It may help if you can get assistance from their friends and family. Just make sure you are not being or looking like a stalker. There can be a fine line between this and asking for help so be tactful and take things slowly. Instead of chasing them you can just happen to go to places where they go and just happen to casually bump onto them. Casually ask them how your ex is doing. Make a point to look your best so you will get favourable reports back to your ex. Even if you feel miserable and look suicidal do whatever it takes to cover that up.
Or you could try to directly approach and make contact with your ex. Invite them out for a casual meal or a drink. These days it’s common for people to agree to be friends after a breakup so use that to your advantage. For all you know they may have been wanting to make contact with you but were afraid you would turn them down. Sometimes fear will stop people from doing many things even if it is at the expense of their future happiness.
The most important thing is that you make a choice and go with it. You only have one shot at life so choose and take action. Both getting over a relationship and getting back with an ex is very possible. People do it all the time so it is possible to succeed. You just have to decide which one you have to succeed with.
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